Monthly Archives: October 2016


Waiting sucks. It’s hard. It doesn’t get easier after 30 years of life. I cannot believe that nearly a month has passed since the last time I wrote. So crazy. How is it that time moves so so so quickly yet waiting for a day can feel agonizing?

I am compulsively checking my email as I wait for the hiring manager to get back to me about the position that I applied for. The interview process was definitely an enjoyable one. The performance task allowed me to flex some muscles that I hadn’t worked in a while. I so so so much want for this to work out. It would complete this year of transformation that I hoped for.

I got the keys to my new apartment today. A and I are moving in together for real. We are in the midst of purchasing a couch. It feels both surreal and right at the same time to have this new identity – an us. An actual us. Not my favorite couch and not her favorite couch. But an our couch.

I got into an argument with one of my moms about A. She still doesn’t accept that I am dating a woman and then has the nerve to turn around and expect a close relationship with me. I refuse. I just refuse. I’m not playing games with her. We can be associates I guess if she refuses to accept me for who I am. Every other person I know is supportive and it’s a shame she would rather be on her lonely, holier than thou high horse than meet the person I love. My eyes are permanently rolled back.

I can feel that I am in a perpetual state of stress. I haven’t been able to do much other than be anxious about these changes in my life. I have not been eating properly. I need a major reset! A and I talked about doing the whole30 again. I think that is for good reason.

Well, I am going to look at couches to see if we can find another good one.

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Read this before you buy a mattress: 10 tips to ensure you get the best deal

My bed is beat. I purchased it no more than 3 years ago from a store called Furniture Weekend in the tiny town I lived in at the time. I was just starting out and wanted to upgrade from an air mattress to a real bed. I had no idea what I was doing and did very little research before I began shopping. It’s because of that lack of preparation that led to a $500 mistake.

Have you read your mattress tag lately?

Notice anything funny about this mattress tag? (Aside from the fact that it looks possessed – that blurry effect is from my failing camera phone).

A bed that only lasts 3 years? Yeah, I guess they exist. In fact, it is rather expected that your mattress will not live through its warranty. Part of the reason why I think my mattress deteriorated so fast is because it was intended to be used without a foundation. I didn’t even know that some mattresses were made that way. Sadly, either the owners at Furniture Weekend were misinformed or just shrewd when they sold me a box spring for my mattress that didn’t need it. Either way, I remain extremely unimpressed. I will not be taken twice, though.

I’ve done a lot of research over the past several days in preparation of buying a new mattress. I feel really empowered and informed about my purchase. I’m waiting for delivery and will surely give an update once that date comes! I know I got a good deal. I want to make sure you get a good deal, too. Don’t get got! Consider the learnings below as you are purchasing your next mattress.

1.  You’re the expert on how your body feels. No salesperson can tell you how comfortable you feel or “should” feel in a bed. Take notes on how you feel in the bed. Pay attention to pressure points and anywhere that causes you pain.

2. Don’t be shy about trying out the bed. Bring your own pillow and possibly a blanket. Take off your shoes. Lay in the bed in the position you like to sleep in. Change positions. Stay in the bed for at least 15 minutes. Don’t be concerned with what anyone else thinks about what you’re doing – you’re shopping for your dream bed without the hassle of returning something. If you feel like being playful or saucy, dismiss a hover salesperson who won’t stop talking with “Hmm, you’re new at this aren’t you?” Alternatively, you could say “I’m going to get comfortable. I’ll let you know when I’m ready to move on.”

3. The salesperson may be friendly, but they are not your friend. They have a bottom line: extract the highest amount of money out of you as possible. They might do this with smiles, jokes, and flattery. They make it appear that they are doing you a favor by throwing in free this or that, or by discounting certain items. No. They are doing themselves a favor of getting you to spend money. Be a friend to yourself and remember your own bottom line. Be prepared to see their friendly smile turn to a frown when you push back. Remind yourself that you don’t care if the salesperson likes you – you care about whether or not you’re getting the best deal for your money.

4. Salespeople are pushy to those that allow themselves to be pushed. 

1.  Take 2-4 weeks to complete the buying cycle (i.e. test sleep to commitment to payment). There’s a lot of things that you need to consider before committing to purchase a mattress, and rushing through any of these components could result in a costly mistake. You won’t regret slowing down.



Don’t worry about missing a sale. When you really stop at think of it, there seems to be one every 5 minutes, doesn’t there? Labor Day, Black Friday, Christmas, Memorial Day, Fourth of July.




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